What are we reading this week?

April 20, 2010


Spanning forty years of the criminal underworld

I love reading Martina Cole novels because she makes it feel so real. The books are not for the faint hearted with much swearing and violence but they are definitely worth reading. 

This book is about love, crime, hate and how one family can rise and fall like the wind. I have never picked up one of Martina Cole books and cried like I have this time round. The story is about one family that has survived so much that has been thrown at them. 

The story is created around the life of Lily Bradie and her family from the time she was 16 until the time she was 66. You can feel the passion that one woman has for her children and the love of her life.    

Spanning forty years of the criminal underworld, Close is powerful, shocking and utterly addictive. Martina Cole is the only person who dares to tell it like it is. 

You will not be disappointed by this novel and the brash story that is told!


What are we reading this week?

April 17, 2010

Little Voice Mastery

by Blair Singer


About a month ago I realized that I had my head in the sand a bit. I have a lot of change happening in my business at the moment.  I find it easy that with all of the new tasks on top of my old tasks that I can get overwhelmed when something unexpected blows up.  When it gets to be too much, I just want to hide.  Push the big Pause Button and block out all the stuff I didn’t get done and that is still rattling around in my head.  Well, this doesn’t work does it?  When I don’t get things done, my brain wakes me up at 4am to start my to-do list.  This isn’t good because then at 9pm I am exhausted, but need to stay up to make sure that my husband is still my husband and catch up. 

Classic example of a trainer needing some training.  I like to look at myself as well as the people I train physically in yearly as well as monthly and weekly cycles.  There are times of the year that you will naturally want to be fitter; usually the fear of summer and togs inspires that one.  Other times of the year you may feel the need to learn and are drawn to take a course or start reading.  Many of us go through a spiritual cycle where we need to soul search or find a deep connection with God, the Universe, our family, the community or the earth itself. 

My time right now is a time to refocus.  So I started by reading a book on Goal setting. That prompted me to make the best goal of all.  I promised to read 100 pages a day, 4 days a week for 4 weeks.  These books can be fitness or business related.  Wow what a difference!  I feel fired up again! 

At the moment I am reading, “Little Voice Mastery” by Blair Singer.  He is one of Robert Kiyosaki’s (Rich Dad Poor Dad) advisors.

Many of these motivation books are not rocket science and this is not any different.  They are written to remind you of what you already know in a way that teaches you something about yourself.                                       

This book talks about the little voices in your head.  No not the crazy voices, that is another book all together.  These are the little Disney Devil and Angel that used to sit on Donald’s shoulder.  Only not so much about good and evil but rather should I or shouldn’t I.  My 6am alarm went off and I should get up and : go for a run; get up and read; check my emails etc.  Then the other voice says: you were up late you need the sleep more; you can stay in for lunch and get the emails checked; give the belly a pinch and a rub and feel like it is not that bad and can wait till tonight – which you know will never happen.  Sound familiar? 

We all have other people’s voices in our heads as well.  When I was a kid, my mother said I was “mentally retarded in Maths”.  Those were her actual words and I apologize if I offend anyone with the horrible wording but it was the 70’s.  She used these words when talking to the ladies at church about how I was doing in school or to my teachers or to my Dad or to me.  These words in the beginning were meant to somehow motivate me to apply myself and eventually they became a simple fact and a mental and medical condition.  It became an excuse for me to not even try certain things.  I would not take science math or physics, go for pilot’s license in air cadets etc.  Then one day a teacher didn’t buy into it and had me tested.  Turns out I have a very average grasp on maths with no psychological, mental or medical handicap at all.  Well that changed things dramatically!  It turns out that physics really made sense to me, my D average in business maths  went to a B- in one term, organic chemistry in University was even in my grasp. 

An ex boyfriend had once told me that my 58kgs of curves was such a welcome change to the 43kg ballet dancers he usually dated.  What was meant to be a compliment, led to 3 years of anorexia at 42kg (I am also fiercely competitive). 

Without us knowing, little voices are created and our sub conscious listens to them.  This book, “Little Voice Mastery” is a great reminder that we have to tap into our sub conscious and really listen to what is being said in our heads.  We need to bring our awareness to them and deconstruct the ones that are not serving us anymore. 

Blair Singer says “I’m willing to say to anybody that the only thing that stands between me and what I want is between my right ear and my left ear.”

 Check out the Amazon link for a discount on this book.

What is Pagets Disease

April 16, 2010

I received an email yesterday about a woman who was diagnosed with pagets disease – I thought it was worth researching as I hadn’t heard of this type of breast cancer before! So this is what I found:

Paget’s disease is a chronic bone condition characterized by disorder of the normal bone remodeling process. Normal bone has a synchronized relationship of mechanisms that act to lay down new bone and take up old bone. This relationship (referred to as remodeling) is essential for maintaining the normal calcium levels in our blood. In bone affected by Paget’s disease, the bone remodeling is disturbed and not synchronized. As a result, the bone that is formed is abnormal, enlarged, not as dense, brittle, and prone to breakage (fracture).

Paget’s disease affects older bone of adults. It’s estimated that 1% of adults in the U.S. have Paget’s disease. There is an extremely rare form of Paget’s disease in children, referred to as juvenile Paget’s disease. Paget’s disease is also known as osteitis deformans.

What are the symptoms?

Paget’s disease commonly causes no symptoms and is incidentally noted when X-ray tests are obtained for other reasons. However, Paget’s disease can cause bone pain, deformity, fracture, and arthritis. The bone pain of Paget’s disease is located in the affected bone. The most common bones affected by Paget’s disease include the spine, the thigh bone (femur), the pelvis, the skull, the collar-bone (clavicle), and the upper arm bone (humerus).

The symptoms of Paget’s disease depend on the bones affected and the severity of the disease. Enlarged bones can pinch adjacent nerves, causing tingling and numbness. Bowing of the legs can occur. Hip or knee involvement can lead to limping, as well as pain and stiffness of the hip or knee. Headache, loss of vision, and hearing loss can occur when bones of the skull are affected. With very widespread Paget’s disease, it is possible to develop congestive heart failure due to an increased workload on the heart.

What is Paget disease of the nipple?

Paget disease of the nipple, also called Paget disease of the breast, is an uncommon type of cancer that forms in or around the nipple. More than 95 percent of people with Paget disease of the nipple also have underlying breast cancer; however, Paget disease of the nipple accounts for less than 5 percent of all breast cancers. For instance, of the 211,240 new cases of breast cancer projected to be diagnosed in 2005, fewer than 11,000 will also involve Paget disease of the nipple.

Most patients diagnosed with Paget disease of the nipple are over age 50, but rare cases have been diagnosed in patients in their 20s. The average age at diagnosis is 62 for women and 69 for men. The disease is rare among both women and men.

Paget disease of the nipple was named after Sir James Paget, a scientist who noted an association between changes in the appearance of the nipple and underlying breast cancer. There are several other unrelated diseases named after Paget, including Paget disease of the bone and Paget disease of the vulva; this fact sheet discusses only Paget disease of the nipple

Kitchen Fire – what to do when there is a fire in your kitchen

April 15, 2010

I was sent this email today by a friend and thought that is was worth reading.

Kitchen Fire –  

Don’t assume that everyone knows this stuff. Just forward it to everyone you know and maybe they will forward it to some one who doesn’t. 

I never realized that a wet dishcloth can be a one size fits all lid to cover a fire in a pan!

This is a dramatic video (30-second, very short) about how to deal with a common kitchen fire… Oil in a frying pan.

Read the following Introduction, then watch the show… It’s a real eye-opener! 

At the Fire Fighting Training school they would demonstrate this with a deep fat fryer set on the fire field. An instructor would don a fire suit and using an 8 oz cup at the end of a 10 foot pole toss water onto the grease fire.      

The results got the attention of the students. The water, being heavier than oil, sinks to the bottom where it instantly becomes superheated.

The explosive force of the steam blows the burning oil up and out. On the open field, it became a thirty foot high fireball that resembled a nuclear blast. Inside  the confines of a kitchen, the fire ball hits the ceiling and fills the entire room. 

Also, do not throw sugar or flour on a grease fire. One cup of either creates the explosive force of two sticks of dynamite. This is a powerful message.

Or go to this website to watch the video!

Ovarian Cancer Whispers – so listen carefully . . .

April 13, 2010

Watch out for tell tale signs

Watch for Pelvic or abdominal pain or discomfort;    
·       vague but  persistent gastrointestinal upsets such as gas, nausea, and indigestion 
·       frequency and/or urgency of urination in the absence of an infection; 
·       unexplained weight gain or weight loss 
·       pelvic and/or abdominal swelling, bloating and/or feeling  of fullness; 
·       ongoing unusual fatigue; 
·       unexplained changes in bowel habits. 
If symptoms persist for more than 2 weeks, ask your doctor for a combination pelvic/rectal exam, 
CA-125 blood test, and trans-vaginal ultrasound. 

A Pap Test WILL NOT detect ovarian cancer.



THE POWER OF A POSITIVE NO (how to say no and still get to yes) – William Ury PH.D

April 10, 2010

Have you ever wondered why most women find it hard to say “no” ? Why is it as a woman we quite often are compelled to give in and do something we do not really wish to do for the sake of hurting somebody’s feelings? Why do we quite often feel insulted by a friend’s “no?”. Is it that the expectation is that your friends will always agree with you and come along because you as a friend will always say “yes”!

Perhaps it is the way we say “no” rather then the no itself, perhaps we do not answer at all in the hope that the other person will forget they asked us or maybe we never say “no” and then build up our frustration with them by avoiding them? The power of a positive no is a brillliant example of how to say ‘no’ positively and get an outcome that suits you both.

This book discusses how important communication is when negotiating – there are some great tips that can obviously help you during working hours but you will be pleasantly surprised how it can also help you with friends and family members. There are many books out there claiming to help you communicate better, but I must say this book was recommended to me and I am glad I picked it up and read it!

I love reading what William Ury has to say as the last book that he co-wrote “getting to yes” gave some great tips also.

What are we reading this week?

April 9, 2010

The Celestine Prophecy an adventure by James Redfield

The book states that you have never read a book like this before and I guess they are right!

This book was an enciteful book that takes you on a road to discovery; the story although slow to begin with ends up keeping you gripped to your seats and wanting to finish it.

If you can read through the lines and understand the underining meaning of the book then it is a good read. It challenges your belief system which is not for the faint hearted.

The book itself has sold over eight million copies in more then thirty two countries and was the best selling American hardcover book in the world for two executive years.

Most of the people I have mentioned the book to have already read it; I think it is one of those books that come around again and again.

I am about to read the second book; so I will keep you posted!

Passion and Love

April 6, 2010

The forever inspiring Ana Scherer from NRG Coaching has given the WIC a run down on the finer points of passion and love.

What you put your attention on grows stronger in your life. Imagine for a moment that your life revolves around what you are passionate about; your family, friends, your ideal career, your favorite hobbies, etc. Everything that you do has the element of passion and love involved. How much different would your life be?

Living your passions is the secret to have more joy and love in your life. It seems like an easy thing to do, but let me ask you this: Are you passionate about your work? Are you making time for your favorite hobbies and sports in your life now? Are you spending quality time with your loved ones? How long since you and your partner went out on a passionate date?

The writer Viktor Frankl wrote in his book “ Man’s Search For Meaning” that “The greatest task for any person is to find meaning in his or her life.” We can only find meaning in our lives if we follow our passions. And how do we find our passions? Great question!

First you need to be clear about who you are – what your values are, what’s important to you, what makes you smile, what your strengths are and where your creativity lies. After doing the inner work, you will have clarity and clarity leads to the power to act. The clarity about who you are will lead you to the clarity about what your passions are.

Your passions are the loves of your life. They are the things that are most important to you. When you are living your passions you are aligned with your personal destiny. When you are aligned with your destiny, your life is joyful, delightful, exciting and fulfilling. That’s our natural way of living. That’s the way that leads us to experience true LOVE!

With energy and passion,


The Mayonnaise Jar

April 5, 2010

I received this email from a friend today, as I was feeling overwhelmed with my “to do list” it could not have come at a better time for me. – I know this is an old email for most of you but I wanted to share it with everybody and remind you all of  the morale to the story.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle … when 24 hours in a day is not enough … remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large, empty mayonnaise jar and started to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar.. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.He then asked the students again
if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.

The students responded with an unanimous ‘yes.’
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
‘Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things – God, family, children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car.
The sand is everything else –The small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.

Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping faucet.

‘Take care of the golf balls first –The things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled. ‘I’m glad you asked’.

It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’
Please share this with other “Golf Balls”
I just did……

Where are they now? – Mary Gallacher

April 3, 2010
The beautiful Mary Gallacher and all her boys packed up and left for Singapore last summer. You may remember Mary as the blonde English woman who was super sweet and who had just had a baby boy not long before she moved away. Although Mary is loving Singapore her friends she left behind in DB miss her infectious smile and her very logical advice that was always shared over coffee in the plaza ;-P
How long ago did you leave DB? We left DB a year ago in June. 
Where and why did you move? We moved to Singapore due to my husband’s job.  He changed roles within his company which meant that he needed to be located in Singapore rather than Hong Kong.
How has your life changed since leaving DB? We now have a house with a big garden for Scruffy to chase squirrels in and a swimming pool for the boys to enjoy!  We also have a car!  I can no longer walk the boys to school as it is too far and they take the bus to school every morning.  We are up early as the bus leaves at 7.05am (GULP!) with school starting at 8am.  Everything is much more spread out in Singapore so I use the car alot to get around.  We are much more organised here as playdates (and coffee dates!) need to be arranged well in advance as there are no chance encounters before/after school.
Eating out is great with a massive choice of restaurants and of course Little India for curry addicts.  Singapore is very child friendly and there is lots for kids to do on the weekend.  Of course we have become members of the Zoo and Sentosa also offers lots of possibilities with a Universal Studios opening in June this year.
I no longer need to worry about buying Chinese vegetables and have taken to visiting our local wet market once a week to buy chicken, pork, fish and fruit and veg.  It is much cheaper than the ex-pat supermarkets and very fresh.
It is great to meet up with old friends again, both from Taiwan and Hong Kong.
What would be your advice for anyone moving to your location?If you have kids, put them on the waiting list for your chosen school as soon as possible!
Go to new things at least once and say yes to every invitation.  As the community is so spread out, it can be difficult to meet new people so you need to take up the opportunity when it is there.  Having said that, everyone is really friendly and there are so many groups to join.
What do you miss about DB? Apart from good friends, I miss the community within DB and the sense of village life.  I loved being able to walk to nearly everywhere.  DBIS was a great community school and organised lots of activities both for the kids and the DB community.  I also miss Halloween – I shall be back for a Headland Drive experience once more!